A simple guide to choosing your first toy and progressing safely.
This guide is based on personal experience and is not medical advice. Go slowly, use body-safe products, and stop if something feels wrong. If you experience sharp pain, bleeding, numbness, or lasting discomfort, stop and seek professional medical advice.
For a first toy, choose something modest, smooth, and easy to control. Do not try to copy extreme sizes right away. Comfort, patience, and consistency matter more than size.
At the beginning, diameter matters much more than length. I recommend starting with a small, smooth toy that is easy to handle; it is the best way to explore calmly.
For reference, I started with toys around 2-3 cm in diameter, then moved to 4-5 cm. Today, I am more comfortable around 6-7 cm.
For anal use, always choose a toy with a flared base. Beginners usually do better with a simple shape before trying heavy texture, strong curves, or very realistic details.
I recommend soft firmness when you are starting. It is more forgiving, easier to control, and usually less intimidating.
Medium firmness can be a good next step. Firm toys can feel much more intense, so I would not choose them as a first toy.
For me, the safest material to look for is platinum silicone. On a product page, look for clear names like “100% Platinum Silicone”, “Platinum-Cured Silicone”, or “Body-Safe Platinum Silicone”.
Avoid PVC, jelly, TPE, TPR, rubber, and unclear material blends. If the composition is vague, skip it. For an insertable toy, the material should be clearly stated.
With silicone toys, always use water-based lube. Avoid silicone-based lubes: they can mix with the toy material, damage it, and sometimes make the surface melt in an irreversible way.
Avoid oils too, because they can damage silicone. I personally use XLube: it is a powder lubricant you mix with water, so you can adjust the texture depending on how much water you add.
An enema is optional, but it can help you feel cleaner and more relaxed before anal play. Use lukewarm water, keep the pressure gentle, and do not use soap, perfume, or harsh products internally.
As a simple reference, a small amount around 200 ml is often enough. The more water you use, the deeper it can go: it takes more time, can be more irritating, and is not necessarily better.
Avoid large volumes of water, because they can irritate your body and disturb your intestinal balance. For a small enema around 200 ml, keep it reasonable: about 3 times per week maximum. For a large enema, do it much less often, closer to 3 times per month maximum. If you feel discomfort, stop and give yourself time.
Increase only one thing at a time: size, firmness, texture, or session length. Give your body time to adapt and do not force pain.
Wash your toy before and after use with warm water and mild fragrance-free soap, or with a silicone-compatible toy cleaner. Rinse well, let it dry fully, and store it separately. Avoid alcohol, bleach, harsh products, and scented soaps. If the surface becomes sticky, cracked, or damaged, do not use it anymore.
Take breaks, stay relaxed, and stop if the session feels wrong. A good session should feel controlled, not rushed or forced.
Here are the brands I would look at first, depending on what you want.
If you want to try fantasy toys without starting with something too intimidating, check Nothosaur or Swisok first. They offer many models with a wide range of sizes, which makes them great for starting small and progressing gradually.
Nyoon is my favorite brand. It is made in France, fully handmade, with excellent quality and a lot of detail. The wait time can be long right now, but to me it is clearly worth it.
If you prefer a realistic-looking toy, QUTOYS is a good option to check. Start with a reasonable size you can actually use, instead of going straight for the biggest model.
If you like toys that sit between fantasy and realistic, check Hankey's Toys or Uberrime. For something bigger and more advanced, look at Greedy Cluster.
For machines, Hismith is a good classic option. F-Machine is more pro-style. Fuck Yeah! is heavier and more digital.